Workplace interactions can be complicated since employees interpret actions differently. Receiving a genuine comment about appearance may be harmless to you, but others might feel uncomfortable about it. To maintain a safe and healthy work environment, consider learning the difference between consensual flirting and harassment.
What counts as flirting?
Flirting is a social behavior people use to express interest or have a fun, mutual interaction. Common examples include compliments, playful teasing and bantering, all of which can leave positive feelings or enhance self-esteem.
When a colleague flirts with you, they should observe your response. If you reciprocate, you are consenting to the interaction. Otherwise, they should respect your boundaries and stop.
When does flirting turn into harassment?
If a colleague continues to tease you despite you showing discomfort or rejection, the interaction can count as harassment. This type of behavior can result in a hostile work environment. Any unwanted action that causes you fear or anxiety, such as insults, name-calling and physical assault, constitutes harassment.
What can you do to protect yourself?
You may encounter a situation where you are unsure if a colleague is flirting or harassing you. If this happens, recall how your colleague’s actions made you feel. Were you comfortable or offended? You can also seek insights from your close friends at work to see how they would react if they were in your position.
Feeling negative about a colleague’s actions is valid, especially if they hurt you. Consider speaking with the human resources department to help address your concerns and get support.